13 ways to enjoy life without extra investment
Let's talk about 13 life pleasures that are usually overlooked. But in vain! They make life as comfortable and joyful as possible.
If it seems to you that you are eking out a “miserable existence” and this cannot be changed, you are mistaken. In fact, enjoying every minute of the day is not difficult at all. We learn about how to enjoy life using the “improvised means” and small tricks that are available to each of us.
Some facts: how the study was conducted
Mihai Chiksentmihayli used the Experience Sampling Method. The methodology consisted in the fact that during the week about 8 times a day at random time the respondent received a sound signal. After the signal, he should have noted in the questionnaire where he is, what he is doing and how happy he is on a 7-point scale - from “very happy” to “very sad”.
Personally, Chiksentmihayli and his colleague Reed Larson collected more than 70,000 pages with data from 2,300 respondents, and researchers from other countries tripled these figures. The respondents were teenagers and old people, adult men and women from the USA, Europe and Asia.
How to get job satisfaction
The work gives a feeling of richness in life, but at the same time, we are upset that began Monday and joyfully welcome Friday on social networks.
In ancient times, leisure was a fleeting phenomenon. A man working in the field could find rare moments of rest for himself. The attitude to work as something heavy and undesirable remained in the minds of people, although for the most part we no longer work from dawn to dawn.
According to the questionnaires of the study participants, the sound signal often triggered when they were engaged in streaming activity at work. They faced a difficult task, the solution of which required the utmost concentration and the application of creative efforts.
The work has clear goals and a measurable result: we either see for ourselves that the company's affairs have gone up, or we will hear a comment from the boss.
At work, we experience more positive feelings than we might have expected.
How work affects improving the quality of life is not determined from the outside. It depends on how a person works and what experience he draws from the tasks assigned to him. For the work to be interesting, it must alternate between a challenge requiring maximum effort and simple tasks, during which we are convinced that we have achieved something in our profession.
There are many ways to do the same thing. Look for alternatives and experiment until you find the best one. When an employee receives a promotion, most often this is because in his previous position he was looking for non-standard ways.
Rest is supreme happiness, isn't it?
Often we feel boredom and apathy and prefer to fill our brains with ready-made solutions, such as watching endless TV shows or surfing the Internet. Or we resort to more powerful stimulants in the form of alcohol or gambling.
For leisure, about a quarter of our free time. A modern person, as a rule, devotes it to three main occupations: the consumption of media materials, conversations and outdoor activities. Each of these activities takes 4 to 12 hours a week.
Passive rest quickly occupies our brain, but there is no challenge in it, there is no problem after which it will be joyful to recall how great it was, albeit not easy.
There is always more return from outdoor activities, but a lot of energy is required for preparation.
That's why we often prefer to stay home than to phone with friends and go for a run or ride a bike.
If you are too tired or worried about something, then you may not have enough internal discipline to overcome the initial obstacle.
The first step towards improving the quality of life is to get the most out of everyday activities.
Think about what activities give you the greatest sense of happiness, which motivates you to new achievements. And come back to them as often as possible.
Plan your time, especially on weekends, then during the week you won’t feel that the time allotted for rest was wasted.
Human needs human
People are most united in streaming activities because they give you happiness and the feeling that you have achieved something important together. You immediately feel the return on these relationships.
Communication with friends gives the most positive emotions. It often happens that we lose touch with school and then university friends because we outgrow the interests that once connected us.
Friendship, like love, can not freeze, it manifests itself in caring for another person and mutual development.
Maintain a relationship that drives you forward. One of the most common complaints of people experiencing a midlife crisis is the lack of close friends.
When people pay attention to each other or to the same occupation, the chance to experience a joint flow increases.
How to achieve a stream state
In global terms: find yourself an activity that you like and which presents an interesting challenge for you. Learn to get away from everyday problems when doing what you love.
In local terms: you should be able to fully concentrate on solving the problem. Neither telephone calls, nor “urgent” issues, with which colleagues or family members approach you, can distract you. The task should be interesting to you, have a specific goal, and its result should be measurable. In the decision process, you apply the maximum of your knowledge and skills.
If you feel that you are too excited about the upcoming business or, conversely, feel boredom and apathy, use special techniques.
We are about 70 years old. The quality of life directly depends on how you spend this day, month and a whole year.
If you want everyday activities to bring maximum positive emotions, we recommend reading the very inspirational books written by Mihai Chiksentmihayi.
Make your night dark and fresh.
You really will live for your pleasure in the afternoon,
if with the advent of night you will easily fall asleep and sleep soundly until the morning.
Recommendation: discard all sources of artificial light 30-40 minutes before going to bed. Sleep in total darkness, having previously aired the room, and life in pleasure will become your constant companion.
Start the day peppy and with a smile on your face.
“Stupidity and banality” - someone will think. Not at all.
How to enjoy life using this rule? This is not about an artificially tense smile (although it often works), but about how to make the morning really enjoyable.
Recommendation: Have you heard about the Zeigarnik Effect? You can learn more about him by searching the web. Let us explain its essence with an example. Before you go to bed, do something pleasant and interesting. Let's say you watch 10 minutes of an exciting movie or read a few pages of an interesting story. Go to bed, and watch a movie in the morning or read a book. You yourself will be surprised at how quickly and pleasantly woke up. Creating an anticipation of something joyful, you can wake up easily and with pleasure, maintaining this state for the whole day.
Another recommendation concerns the early rise. No, do not get up with the first cocks. Just gradually set the alarm 5-10 minutes earlier than usual. So you free yourself time in the morning for something pleasant. Hurry does not contribute to a good day. A measured gathering with a cup of coffee and even reading the news will fill the morning with pleasure.
Your menu should have dishes worthy of any gourmet.
This does not mean that you should eat only delicacies.
Do not forget, we offer only about those pleasures in human life that are available to each of us.
Recommendations: chew food slowly. Food, like all other pleasures in life, should be savored. Do not “throw in yourself” food, do not rush. Pay attention to serving.
Receive pleasant emotions from expectation.
Wait and enjoy, not nervous?
How to enjoy life and enjoy even waiting for something or standing idle in traffic? It is easy if you use the minutes of forced inaction as time for a pleasant conversation with yourself.
Recommendations: at your fingertips should be weapons against boredom: an audiobook, a pleasant dream that you can visualize in your mind, a beautiful neighbor on a subway car (or rather, thoughts about it). Instead of being angry at the circumstances, devote this time to something that will give you pleasure.
Read interesting books.
Immerse yourself in the plot without doing other things at the same time.
Recommendations: pleasures in human life, such as books, are accessible to everyone. Do not refuse electronic readers if you prefer paper volumes. Take them on the road. Listen to audio books if you cannot read the paper.
And the material carrier will not be key. Read aloud, especially if you have children. Read in silence and in a comfortable chair. Make a special ritual from reading that gives peace and joy.
Listen to music that you like.
A selection of music has a magical ability to influence mood and self-awareness. Learn to understand its essence by listening to songs not in the background. Take time to listen to the works of classical composers.
Recommendations: When listening to your favorite or new songs, don’t stoop. You need a straight back. Try to feel the music and words not only by your hearing, but also by your skin. You must become one sensitive ear. And then the melody will create magical images in front of you. You should also concentrate on the sensations of the body, especially in the area of the spine.
The most delicious drink is water. The most pleasant environment is water.
It also tones up, gives strength, energizes, observation of water helps to improve mental processes.
Recommendations: turning life into pleasure, drink clean, fresh water daily. You need 7-8 glasses. In addition, you can buy a subscription to the pool, go to the sea or to your own bathroom. An invigorating shower will help relieve stress and provide a healing massage.
Movement is life.
You will not get a healthy body if you sit in one place all day.
No need to rape yourself with heavy physical exertion, if you do not like it. But give your body a little pleasure by warming up daily.
Recommendations: the minimum number of steps to be taken daily is 10 thousand. Do you think this is impossible? You are wrong. Use pedometer applications, fortunately, you can find them on any smartphone. Measure the path covered during the day, and if the conquered distance was too small, go to the street. Only 15-20 minutes in the fresh air, and the job is done.
In addition, try dancing daily or warming up your body in another pleasant way. The main thing is that during warm-up every muscle of the body is worked out, which remains idle during working days. Especially recommended should be a popular yoga pose called savasana ("dead" pose).
Do not give up on new experiences.
Your psyche needs emotional nourishment.
And you are in new emotions and impressions. Otherwise, you will start to mope, and as a result, it is very possible that you will become ill.
Recommendations: You can pamper your sense of smell, taste buds, organs of hearing and vision, touch. Get a really interesting hobby. Then every day in life will be a joy.
Try to find bliss and peace.
Increased anxiety is characteristic of the vast majority of modern people.
How to get rid of her? Try to spend every day in a society of people who are really located to you.
Recommendations: it often turns out that it is impossible to feel calm even in the family circle. After all, relatives can always quarrel with each other. In this case, try to find like-minded interests. A good solution is attending psychological training.
Fill your life with victories and achievements.
Often people miss their victories.
Considering them not worthy to pay attention to them. But in vain!
Start praising yourself for any successful business. So you can tune in to success in large events.
Recommendations: try to please yourself even with small victories. Did you get a delicious soup? You deserve praise. You woke up quickly and easily, and started the day before a couple of hours? This is undoubtedly your victory and achievement. Learn to find joy in every day, and life will bring pleasure.
Get to know the "free will."
This is pure pleasure.
It is more than a sense of freedom within or without oneself.
Recommendations: You can understand what this is about in this case, after reading the brilliant story “Will” by Nadezhda Teffi. By the way, we have already said that it is thanks to the books that you can turn life into a real pleasure.
Look for the meanings.
Pleasure cannot be meaningless.
Between a life that is dedicated to pleasure and pleasure, and a life that is full of meaning, there is a huge difference, do you think? However, you are mistaken.
If there is no meaning in life, then any pleasure will not bring the desired pleasure. Remember the popular joke about how a man demanded that he return money for a “defective” balloon that did not let air through, but simply did not bring pleasure ...
Recommendations: ask yourself some magic questions: why and for what? Engage in searches of high meaning, considering even simple and everyday joys and pleasures. You will find that pleasure can be found everywhere.